I believe LOVE-making wasn't meant to be a spectator sport. If you look at it objectively and dispassionately, there's absolutely nothing pleasant about a person's face when he or she extends lips and puckers up to kiss somebody. Is serious monkey face!
In fact, I've always maintained that the reason why we close our eyes to kiss is not because it's so romantic, but because the brain is subconsciously trying to protect us from being scared to death. Why? Human beings don't look very attractive close up, when all the facial creases and lines and warts and pimples are accentuated. Ughgh!
In my book, many human activities may be wonderful when you are experiencing it but can be quite revolting for others to watch. Trust me. I've seen people who, to observe them having a meal would turn you completely off the idea of eating. Somebody would have to have a very, very warped mind to derive pleasure from watching another person while he or she is doing a personal toilet 'sit down'.
Sexual content
Some things are just not meant to be watched, and that's always been my attitude to pornography. Don't get me wrong, I love sex. I don't mind sexual content in a film, play or novel, as long as it is not unnecessarily gratuitous. There needs to be a plausible context for me, and the sex has to serve some purpose in the plot. It can't just be sex for sex sake.
If you find great pleasure in something, why waste time watching it when you can be busy doing it? Unless maybe it's football. I love the game but I have three left feet, so I'd much rather watch Brazil play Argentina than sweat up myself and risk injury in a game of scrimmage. And singing?
I love singing. I'm fond of telling people that singing talent runs in my family, but I often have to admit that it appears to have run past me. It's a beautiful experience for me to watch and listen to great singers. I enjoy listening to recordings or watching concerts on TV or film, and I love music videos. But nothing beats enjoying a singer performing live in front of me.
I don't trust tapes. Recordings can be technologically doctored and enhanced to make the performers look or sound good even when they're actually awful. You remember the duo called 'Milli Vanelli'?
Pornographic film footage
And it's not just musical recordings. Pornographic film footage is routinely edited and fixed so a three-minute-long engagement can be made to look like an all-nighter. And the camera angles and directions are usually deliberately arranged to make male members look extra large. Plus, the female performers are always pretty and well made-up, and they smile agreeably while they feign pleasure. That's not sex. Blue movies are just attempts at making sex into an aesthetically pleasing entertainment product. It seems to work for some people.
Maybe that's why some of us get carried away with cell phone and camcorders and feel like we can make own personal sex-tape and get the same results. I've seen one of the two Jamaican celebrity sex tapes making the rounds, and I had to stop watching after about three seconds and delete the thing. It's embarrassing. The actors look very uncomplimentary. Of course, the big question everyone is asking is 'how did these tapes get into the hands of the public?' I'm curious. Was it a case of people being careless or a case of people being carefree? I can't answer that, but I know I'd feel very bad if it was me!
What you think?
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