Dear Pastor,

I am married, but my husband lives in St Vincent. We met in Canada. His time was up to go back home, so I went to St Vincent to marry him. I filed for him. I usually call him a few times a day and on the weekend.

So recently he told me I called him too many times a day. He said it's ok for me to call him every day, but not so often in one day, because all we do is repeat ourselves. I was very hurt by that. I go out of my way for him all the time. So now I am thinking I am married to the wrong man. Now I feel like walking away from him even though I love him. I now have mixed feelings about him. I am so confused. I don't know if I should move on with my life with someone else or try to work it out with him. I feel like walking away is the easiest thing to do.

Pastor, please, help me.

J. C., Massachusetts, USA

Dear J. C.,

You can't convince me that you love this man. Why should you be so upset because your husband told you that you are calling him too many times in one day? He said he appreciates your calls once per day, but not many times per day. Come on, madam. Use your senses. You are wasting money. If speaking the truth has caused you to be so upset, what will happen when trials come?

Madam, you are too proud and you feel that you have something over this man. You believe that because you are in a position to file for him to live in Canada, he should put up with your nonsense. Get real. The man has not said anything that is wrong. You are too thinned skin. Grow up.

Pastor