Dear Pastor,

I have a problem that I need some Christian advice on. I am 21 years of age and I am in a very good job. I am a graduate from college with an associate degree in business. However, I have been dating a guy for the past four years and we are now engaged. Things are a bit hard for him right know (financially) and he is unable to provide me with all my needs/wants.

I have been having an affair for the past nine months with a much older man. He treats me like royalty. My problem is that at times I feel guilty and so ashamed of myself that I don't know what to do. I love my fiancé very much and just the thought of me hurting him is driving me crazy. I have tried on numerous times to walk away from this man, but there is always something that is so strong that keeps on pulling me back into his arms. I have feelings for him, but not as much as I do for my fiancé.

D. D., Westmoreland, Jamaica

Dear D. D.,

Perhaps you want too much. You are in a good job and your fiancé assists you from time to time. You did not have to become sexually involved with this man who is by far your senior. You are a greedy girl. You should learn to be satisfied with what you earn and what your boyfriend is able to give to you.

This older man knows that you are using him so he will give you just a little, but it will never be enough for a greedy girl like you, so you will always be back for more. Some of you girls feel that older men are not wise, but older men know how to play the game to keep you under their wings. So, learn to be content with the little you earn. You will live a better life.

Pastor