Dear Pastor,

I need your help. I don't know what to do. I have a baby with a man, who has now gone back to Jamaica to live. When he left for Jamaica, he did not tell me when he left. He called me five days later to tell me where he was. We did not live together but he slept at my house almost every night. Now that he is in Jamaica, when I call him, he is always busy or sometimes he does not answer his phone. He bought tickets for me and the baby to come to Jamaica but I don't know if I want to see him. When I wanted to go and see him he did not want me to come. He keeps saying he wants to marry me, but I think he is just saying that to make me shut up.

Please, pastor, give me your advice before I make the biggest mistake of my life. I love him very much.

A. S., United Kingdom

Dear A. S.,

I don't understand why this man did not inform you that he was going to Jamaica. However, I suggest you accept the tickets and travel to Jamaica to see him. While in Jamaica, you might be able to assess the situation and determine whether you wish to marry him.

Pastor