Now five years later, I found out he was going out with another woman for four years and had another woman for a year. He claims both of them are his friends. They both denied that they are just friends to him and they both had sex with him and he has denied all these accusations. His parents warned me about all his actions and told me what was going on, but I watched him to gather my own findings. I have also searched his phone and the text messages he received are out of this world, for example, "I need sex" was from his female friend. In his defence, he said I give him no privacy and I don't trust him.

Please, pastor, tell me what to do because as a university student this is way too much stress that I can't handle.

S. C., Toronto, Canada

Dear S. C.,

Enough has been said to you by parents and other family members and friends. The women have told you that they are sexually involved with this man and you won't listen. The only person you believe is the man. You will therefore fall on your head because you are behaving as a fool. You may be attending university, but you are surely not wise.