The Jamaica Star :: Tell Me Pastor :: SERIOUS MEDS

Dear Pastor,

I am having a little problem with a situation while I am here in the States. I met a girl who was having a bit of trouble with her husband. She came to me in a desperate time of need and we had sex. She and I were still seeing each other on and off while she was with her husband. Things were not getting better with her husband and she asked me to keep our relationship and affair a secret. So I complied. She divorced him and we are now together. The only thing is that her ex-husband still doesn't know about us. Also she and her husband have a child together.

Wonderful sexual relationship

The girl and I are still having a wonderful sexual relationship and I'm trying to keep the child out of the way. But my biggest problem is that I am also married with a wife and three children in Jamaica. Now the thing is that I am here in the States studying to become a doctor and now I have this relationship on my shoulders.

Pastor, what should I do? Do I continue with this relationship or be faithful to my wife and children in Jamaica?

A. A., New Jersey, USA

Dear A. A.,

You did not explain what the problem was with this woman and her ex-husband. You were available to her so she got closer to you. She got what she wanted out of you and you got what you wanted out of her. You didn't think of your wife and children in Jamaica when you got involved with this woman.

NOT GOING TO BE EASY

It is only now that it is bothering you because this woman is hanging on to you to death. You want to shake her off, but I am here to tell you that it is not going to be easy for you to do so. She is going to show you that she is single and available and you don't know what your wife is doing in Jamaica.

Sir, do you love your wife and children? If you do, handle the situation with velvet gloves. Remind this woman everyday that you are married. By the way, have you told her that you are a married man? If you haven't, you better do it now. Beg her to find another man, before it is too late.

Pastor