Dear Pastor,

I'm married now for three years. We have a son together and another on the way. However, things have changed drastically in this relationship. My husband does not make love to me as often as I would like. He also does not put money on the table like what I'm accustomed to see my parents do, so I'm constantly spending and buying for my son. I cannot save as much as he does. He does take care of the rent, but that's the only thing he does so far. With this new baby on the way, I feel as if I have had enough with this marriage. I really love him and we wanted to do a renewal of our wedding vows. However, I am not feeling all this love and bliss that I'm supposed to be feeling.

Frustrated Wife, St James, Jamaica

Dear Frustrated Wife,

There is lack of communication between your husband and you. I don't believe that you all are talking enough about family life and things that are affecting the relationship. So I suggest that you start talking. The money should not be an issue; talk about it. Tell him what you expect of him and he will tell you what he expects of you.

You are concerned about the support of the home. Surely paying the rent is not enough. Your husband needs to do more. So, I repeat, communicate. Things will improve if both of you just learn to talk together.

Pastor