Dear Pastor,

I am a 15-year-old girl and I am in love with my cousin's husband. He is 29 and we have been talking for six years. That's before he got married. He has a lot of feelings for me, if not he would have stopped talking to me. We have done everything, but we have not had sex as yet. I love him and I know that what is going on between us is wrong, but I can't help myself. We talk about everything and anything. He is always there for me, and I want it to remain like that. I don't want to lose his love or his friendship.

Please, help me, pastor.

J. W., Detroit, USA

Dear J. W.,

Your cousin's husband should know better. In fact, I am sure he knows better. He is just waiting for you to grow a little older to have sex with you. He may not admit it to you, but that is exactly what he is going to do. He discusses everything with you. The only thing he has not done as yet is to have sex.

I know that you are excited. I know you look at him as a trusted friend, but I want to put it to you that he is not a good man. You have said that this man and you have done everything apart from having sex. I wonder what are all these things that you have done. You are young and you trust this man and you don't want to lose his friendship. But if you don't end the close relationship with him, your cousin will eventually find out that something is going on between the both of you and she will turn against him.

Stop seeing this man. If he invites you out, decline the invitation. Don't be anywhere with him alone. Danger is at your door. You have not seen it yet, but may God open your eyes before it is too late.

Pastor