Dear Pastor,

I'm a 23-year-old woman who is in love with a 40-year-old woman. I have been in this relationship for about two years. I really want to tell my mom about the situation, but I'm scared. I don't know how to tell her. On the other hand, my mom and I don't get along so I've been living with this lady for about eight months.

Pastor, I need you to tell me how I can tell my mom.

KS, New York, USA

Dear KS,

Your purpose for writing is for me to suggest the approach you should take in informing your mother that you are gay. You are not living at home, you are living with your lover. If your mother has not yet suspected that you are gay, she might be wondering why you have left home and is living with this woman. If you feel that you must tell her, you may call her on the phone and tell her, but at the age of 23, you do not have to say anything to your mother about your lifestyle whether it is good or bad.

Have you ever considered going to see a psychologist? Have you ever wondered why you have become gay? Perhaps it might help you to consider going for counselling.

Pastor