Dear Pastor,

I'm an 18-year-old young lady who was in love with a 24-year-old young man. We were together for almost 2 years. We were introduced by a friend of ours and we met at my Valedictory Service in July 05. We got closer and closer everyday. At times we fussed and fought. I did not like it. At one point I wasn't feeling comfortable with him so I went and sought love somewhere else. I did not mean to, but temptation was strong. I confessed to him about it because I felt guilty and loved him. He was heart broken.

After a year, he told me to give him some space because it's hurting him. We went on our break in February 06 and only to find out that he found someone he was in love with once. Two months after I found out, the girl is 16 and she is in grade 10. I felt like I have nothing left, because he was all I had. I even stopped talking to my friends because of him. I'm not hurt by the girl, I don't know why.

Pastor, what must I do? Do you feel that I will love like this again? I want to get over him. Now he is telling me to deal with him talking to her or go. I need your help. I really love this man, but I don't want to share him. I promised him that I would never hurt him again.

J.T., Hanover, Jamaica

Dear J. T.,

Move on with your life. This man has no intention of ending the relationship with the sixteen-year-old girl. He has made it clear to you that he is not going to leave her. So you should move on. You will find another man who would love you and care for you. Don't beg this man to come back to you. He will hurt you again and again. So put him behind you. It is not going to be easy, but the more you push up yourself on him, it is the more difficult it is going to be to get over him.

Pastor