Dear Pastor,

I have a small problem. I moved to the USA when I was 18 years old to live with my mom and step-dad, then to find out that my step-dad is an alcoholic, a smoker and a child molester. He was really nice to me for the first few weeks that I lived with them.

Then after that he put dirty talks to me and I got upset and told my mom as soon as she came home. She was upset for a few weeks but was able to get over it. He put us through a lot of hard times because he said he brought us here to this country. Anyway he passed away a year ago and my mom found another man right away.

I felt under loved and unwanted so I met a guy two years after that and he treated me so special and showed me unconditional love. He made me feel special and wanted, but he cheated on me after we started going out. I found out that he was still seeing his ex-girlfriend. I was heartbroken when I found out.

He told me he was sorry and he told her that he loves me and he wants to be with me, so I stayed with him, but was never able to trust him again. We now have a child and have been together for six years. But I have no feelings for him anymore, still I feel like it would be ungrateful to break up with him, since he has been there for me through thick and thin.

Please, pastor, give me your advice on what to do.

S., Rhode Island, USA

Dear S.,

Try and get yourself a good education. Don't waste your time. Make sure you don't get pregnant again until you are married.

Pastor