Dear Pastor,
I am a 49-year-old female who is financially secure. In 2002 I met a young man at the church I attend. He lives in Jamaica and I in the States. He was here on vacation. We chatted and over time became friends. He went back to Jamaica and started attending church.
He asked me to marry him. I told him I couldn't since he was not a baptised member. He said he was going to get baptised because he wanted to live a life honourable to the Lord. I then fell in love with him. So, he planned to get baptised and a week after the baptism we had planned to get married.
One day out of the blue with all the wedding plans going on, he called me and told me we are not getting married. I asked him why, but he couldn't explain. I was hurt. Then a few months later I found out it was another woman. He then forgot about the church and me. The relationship between him and the woman didn't work out.
Did it again
After two years, he called me begging and saying he was sorry. I forgave him because I still loved him, and then it happened again; only this time he hurt me worst. He used me, took all he could and kick me to the curb, and couple months after got baptised and marry another woman who knew about me, and I didn't know about her. His relatives are mad at him for what he did to me.
I don't know what is wrong with me. I'm such a fool to trust him again. Do you think I'm stupid? Please, help me., I'm hurting real bad. Thank you.
G. B., New York, USA
Dear G. B.,
You are not stupid but you made a mistake. You did not give the guy's age, but I am sure you are much older than he is.
He used you, but don't allow what he did to make you go crazy. God will take care of you. Good men are hard to find and for that reason some women go all out to prove to the men who say they love them that they are willing to be good to them.
Pastor
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