Dear Pastor,

I am a 24-year-old married woman. I love my husband so much. He is 25. I live overseas while he lives in Jamaica. It's so frustrating to know that I am so far away from him. The thing is I searched his email which I know is wrong, but reasons caused me to do that. I see all these stuff that girls send to him and I am so hurt. He told one of them that he wanted to touch her, but he has to control himself. He flirts a lot and I told him that he is married now so there is no need to flirt. Am I wrong? He keeps denying that he is having an affair with the girl. He says they are just friends. I am so hurt. I am thinking about letting him come here and work. I am trying to get a permit for him to come.

Pastor, what should I do?

ED,

Dear ED,

Stop reading your husband's email. He told the girl that he was tempted to touch her, but he didn't do it, so don't judge him. If indeed you can get a permit for him to come and stay with you, do so. It must be very difficult for both of you to be apart from each other.

Pastor