Dear Pastor,

I am a 27-year-old woman living in Canada. I came to Jamaica last Christmas and met a guy. We fell for each other within days and slept together within a week. Upon returning to Canada, we talked on the phone at least twice a day. During our time in Jamaica, he admitted that he had another girl, but she was living in London. They had been going strong for five years. Whenever we talk, he always says he wants a baby with me, neither of us has any kids. That doesn't really seem like a bad idea, and we have always decided that if I became pregnant, then the girl in London would be gone. Lately, he told me that they have separated and it's all about me now.

The reason why I am writing this letter is because this man seems too real to be true. He has never asked me for anything. He has never given me the idea that he wants to come where I am. Can someone really find love many miles away or will the bottom fall out of my bucket? I hope not since I can really see myself loving this man forever.

Tell me, pastor, should I treat this relationship like its real or just play the game that I think he is playing because to most Jamaican men, relationships are just games for them.

SO, Ontario, Canada

Dear SO,

You are very deep into this relationship already. In fact, it didn't take you very long to play 'cricket'. The man was bowling and you were batting within a week. You didn't even use pads. You decided that if he got you pregnant the girl in London would be history. Well, she is gone now, but you are still wondering if this man is for real. If you had concerns about him why did you allow him to score?

I suggest that you tell him that these days you are beginning to wonder whether he is for real. Tell him you are not trying to offend him, but you just need to be reassured that everything is all right.

Pastor