Dear Pastor,

I'm 16 years old and I am dating a 29-year-old married man. He says he loves me and I love him, but I don't know if he really does. He has never forced me to have sex or anything like that, but we broke up about two or three times already because of the whole wife thing. But we always get back together.

He said he is just dealing with the wife because of papers, but when his wife came down I called his phone and she picked up and we argued. He told me when she left that he dealt with her, and he was upset with me because he had told me not to call him until she left.

I can't deal with the drama and excitement. I love him and would do anything for him. Sometimes I think he cares for me and then another time I think he doesn't. What should I do? I try to leave him alone, but I can't. He is always on my mind. My daddy is upset and wants to chop him as soon as he gets out of jail.

KS, California, USA

Dear KS,

You have no right to be arguing with this man's wife. You are out of order. You and this man are having an affair and it is evident that he is just making a fool of you. His wife is quite right to question why you are calling the house. He is a wicked man. He knows that you are young and vulnerable. So, he is playing a game. May I suggest that you end the relationship with him and try and put all your energy into schoolwork?

Pastor