Dear Pastor,

I am a 21-year-old Christian and I have been dating a 25-year-old guy for more than a year. We started having sex recently and I feel guilty about it. I know it's wrong and I want to stop, but I don't know how. He says he loves me and I love him too. We have been through a lot and mean a lot to each other. He said he wants to find God for himself and I agree with him. I can't give God to him. God will have to reveal Himself to my guy. But what must I do until he finds God?

I don't want to leave him and I know he doesn't want to leave me either. Pastor, what am I to do?

SM, St Andrew, Jamaica

Dear SM,

You have to make a decision. It is either the man or God. If you prefer the man, bear in mind that everybody will have to give account to God for himself/herself. The guy whom you are going with is not interested in becoming a Christian. He is quite willing to enjoy sex with you as long as you are willing to engage in sex with him. So I repeat, it is either the man or God. And only you can make the decision.

Pastor