Dear Pastor,

I am a 21-year-old university student who is having a little trouble in the love department. I am currently in a relationship that has been going well for the past three and a half years. We have had our ups and downs but we've managed to get through them. He is the perfect guy for me and he's one of the best men a girl could ever ask for. But the problem is, I think I'm starting to have feelings for another guy at school. He's very similar to my boyfriend in terms of how they talk and their goals.

Pastor, what I want to know is if I am cheating on my boyfriend by having these feelings for this other guy. I really, really love my boyfriend and I will never do anything to hurt him, but at the same time I can't really help having feelings for someone else. I really need your advice. Please, help me.

NB, St Andrew, Jamaica

Dear NB,

It is not unusual for someone to admire or even have a crush on another although he/she may be in a steady relationship. Some folks even fantasise about going with that person. It's really not cheating in the strict sense of the word. It is lusting. Therefore I suggest that you pray much about the situation and that you don't call this young man or go anywhere with him. Make sure you are never alone with him.

Pastor