Dear Pastor,

I am a 27-year-old woman who has been married for one year after dating my husband for four years. The problem is that I have been through the ringer so many times in this relationship, that I feel as if right now I just want to be left alone.

One major problem I encountered was a stubborn baby mother who has been trying to oust me out of this man's life for the past three and a half years. Now I am not even sure if she has stopped as they have three children together. She has told those kids so much nonsense. They have no respect for me whatsoever.

She went from one extreme to the next. She even came to the house and cursed me out. When I asked my then boyfriend why he is not taking up for me and not putting a stop to her, he said she is his baby mother and she will stop soon. Now as his wife, she cursed me out again, this time he went to her and asked her what happened because according to him, there are two sides to a story. It's as if he did not believe me and the worst thing is he knows her as a liar. I have a lot of resentment towards him because of all that has happened.

Now I regret marrying him as frustration has caused me to be mean, and he keeps on snapping at me, saying that I am annoying him. I do not know what to do as I do not believe in divorce.

Pastor, please, help me and pray for me.

TL, Jamaica

Dear T. L.,

As I read your letter I wondered why you married this man. Surely you knew about his children's mother and what you were going through with her. It is evident that this man prefers to listen to her. I hope you are not trying to go toe to toe with her by cursing her too.

Although this man has children with this woman, he chose to marry you so he must have seen something in you that is superior to her. Therefore, I would suggest that you try to get him to go with you to see a family counsellor. I hope you will succeed in doing so.

Pastor