I have been seeing someone and I still do not like to give him any and when I do, I think of all sorts of thing in my mind so I would not think about what is happening at the time. He thinks we should have sex all weekend and one time during the week since we are both working people, but I tell him that he is crazy.

When I tell older people how sex makes me feel and how nasty I think it is, they think something is wrong with me.

I even went as far as saying that when I get to 35 years old I will never have sex again and Pastor, I am serious. I have never been rape or molested.

Pastor, please tell me what you think. Do you think that I am crazy?

T.C. Florida, USA

Dear T. C.,

It is so unfortunate that you think that sex is nasty. God created sex. It is not the sex that is nasty, it is the way one goes about it. It may be nasty to you because you are just having raw sex. You have never made love.

That is what is missing in your life. You never loved your husband. If you had loved him there would have been no cause for him to ask you for sex. Lots of men and women have sex, but there is no love in it. But when people love each other and make love, they experience ecstasy.