Dear Pastor,

I must commend you on the good work that you are doing. I am an 18-year-old male who is deeply involved in a relationship with a 21-year-old girl. We really love and appreciate each other. The problem is, every little mishap is blamed on me for the single reason that I am younger, so I am less experienced and I can't take it. It gives me a headache before I go to sleep and when I'm awake. Sometimes, I feel as if she's fooling around with me. She feels as if she can speak to whomever whenever she pleases and I can't. She doesn't realise that it's 50/50 in this thing and she is not the boss of me.

Pastor, what should I do? Should I stay and try to work things out or what? Thanks in advance.

G.H., Mandeville, Jamaica

Dear G.H.,

I suggest that you walk away from this relationship. From what you have said, you are not mature enough to deal with the problems that this relationship is causing you. You may continue to be a friend to this young woman, but not in an intimate way. She looks at you as a boy because you are much younger. You are still a teenager and you have much to learn. Give yourself time to grow up.

Pastor