Dear Pastor,

I am just asking for another opinion because a few people have been giving me advice about my problem, but I still don't know what to think. I have been in a relationship with a young man for about seven years and I really believe I am in love with him. I thought he was in love with me too, but now I'm having doubts.

About two years ago, he cheated on me but he told me about it after a while and I decided to forgive him. I thought he had left this other girl but some incidents occurred that made me realise otherwise. I have been sleeping with him for about five years now and this other girl has not done so yet. I have heard from a reliable source that he is always discussing marriage with her and that he tells his friends that he is confused because he is in love. The problem is I don't know who he is in love with or if I'm just being used for sex while he is actually contemplating marrying this other girl.

Please, tell me what you think. Thank you for your advice.

G., St Catherine, Jamaica

Dear G.,

It seems to me that you and this man do not communicate very well because, if you were communicating, you wouldn't be in doubt whether this man is prepared to marry you or this other girl. Both of you have been sleeping together for five years, but the relationship is seven years old. So, you know him very well.

I suggest that you discuss the matter with him and tell him that you are not prepared to wait any longer, so he should tell you his plans. And if he does, help him to work out the plans.

Pastor