Dear Pastor,

I'm a girl in my teens and I really need some advice. There is a guy who I like and I don't really know if he likes me. We only used to have small conversations until one night he called my phone asking me if he could come over to my house to chill. I couldn't say no because I really like him and maybe this was my one and only chance to really talk to him. So I told him that he could come over.

When he came over my house, he kissed me and then asked where my room was. I showed him my room. I never really thought of what would have happened, but I knew at one point that that's the reason he came over in the first place.

He took my virginity, then he left. We weren't going out or anything and that's when I realised that I did the stupidest thing that anyone could ever do.

Wait, I forgot to mention that he had a girlfriend that he was going out with and the only reason he came over was because his girlfriend was working late. I tried not to talk to him, but it was hard. I still like this guy and I'm still trying to get him to like me but, I wouldn't want the same thing to happen again.

Pastor, I really need to know what to do. Should I keep talking to this guy? I think the only reason why I want to talk to him is because I feel close to him for being the first one to have sex with me and I want him to like me so I won't feel like he used me. Please, pray for me because I know I have sinned.

J., New York, USA

Dear J.,

This guy took advantage of your naivety. He is a very wicked fellow. He knew that you were living a sheltered life and he wanted to have sex, so he saw you as a prey. He is not a good man. You made a mistake, but you are going to have to put this big mistake behind you and move on. You will never forget what happened, but you should be much more careful next time.

Don't continue to call this fellow. If you do, He will use you again. He has his girlfriend. He doesn't love you. Take good care of yourself and may God bless you.

Pastor