Dear Pastor,

I am a 25-year-old woman who is in love with a man, but I seem to be having a problem. He often speaks of getting married, but when the time comes to make the plans, he backs out. He keeps on saying that he doesn't want to make the wrong decision. He keeps on wondering if I am the right woman for him. His job lets him travel a lot. Whenever he is away from me, he says that he loves me and wants to get married, but as soon as he is back it's a different ball game.

Pastor, I know that he loves me, but why doesn't he want to make a commitment. Should I just tell him to leave me alone or give him time? It makes me so depressed at times because my family and friends keep asking what's keeping us from getting married. Do you think that he is involved with another woman and that's why he is so confused?

C., St Catherine, Jamaica

Dear C.,

This man is fooling you. It is time for him to stop making silly excuses and it is time for you to stop believing his lies. No woman should beg a man to marry her. What she needs to do is to tell him to get lost if he constantly gives the impression that he doubts whether she is the right woman for him. If this man is not sure whether you are the right woman for him, how long will he take to find out? The man is a big liar. He wants to have your body without responsibility.

Pastor