Dear Pastor,

I am 29 years old. I was in love with a guy who is 39. We have a child together, but he doesn't support the child. We broke up because I realised that he likes young girls because he tried to have sex with a 16-year-old relative of mine when we were together. Now he is dating a young girl and whenever I hear that they were out together, I get jealous. I don't know why I do because he treated me badly when we were together and I don't have any desire to be with him again. Sometimes, I think that I am not normal.

Please, pastor, tell me what you think.

S. S., Pennsylvania, USA

Dear S. S.,

Perhaps you still love this man, but you know that you can never go back to him. You know that he is not a good man and love is not the only criteria for marriage or to have a good, lasting and enjoyable relationship.

You must come to the place where you can hear that he was out with a woman and don't feel jealous, but that may take a long time. You have to consider this man dead. Yes, you know he is alive, but as far as the relationship with you is concerned, it is dead.

See that he supports his child, but if he wants to be a playboy, let him have his way. He may eventually crash.

Pastor