Dear Pastor,

Why is it so difficult for women to stay faithful? I am living in the USA and my girlfriend lives in Jamaica. I give her everything she needs, but she still went and got pregnant by another man. I see her every other month because my sister works with the airline and it does not cost me much to travel. I took back the car I gave her and put her out of my house. I even changed my number twice, but she still finds a way to contact me. I don't forget or forgive. Now that she is walking again and living with her mother, the man has no more use for her.

How can I get it through her head that not even God can make me deal with her again?

A.M., New York, USA

Dear A.M.,

Be careful what you say. You are just a puny man that God can strike at any time. So, be careful what you say that God cannot do. It is unfortunate that your girlfriend and you have parted because of her infidelity which resulted in her pregnancy. However, you should not use that incident to condemn all women. And you should remember that men are unfaithful too.

You have treated her harshly by taking away the car. Why couldn't you have allowed her to keep the car? If you had left her the car, at least she would have something in her possession to remind her that you were a very good man to her. You took the car because you felt that the man who got her pregnant and his baby will travel in the car and you couldn't allow that.

You see, sir, a gift is a gift and if you gave her this car as a gift, it is hers and a good man will not take back a gift that is given to a woman. That's my position. If the woman had given you back the car on her own volition, that would be totally different. I repeat, and I stand by my position that you should not have punished this woman by taking back the car.

Pastor