December last year, I met a guy and we became friends. We had sex twice. One protected, one unprotected. I haven't told my boyfriend and I don't know how to tell him. I know he has been faithful to me, but each time I bring up getting married, he keeps on saying he's not ready.

He is not financially stable and he's trying real hard, but he thinks he needs to own things before he gets married. All these things make me feel so unsure. I was told that men who keep saying they're not ready usually don't plan on getting married.

Please, pastor, I need your advice.

D. L., St. Andrew, Jamaica

Dear D. L.,

If you know you are not happy with this man why did you allow him to get you pregnant?

You said he is kind and compassionate, but he is not romantic. Therefore, your desire is to be with another man.

What you really want from this man, he is not prepared to give to you.

Therefore, you may wish to move on. However, you should remember that you are carrying his child and that he would wish to see that his child is cared for.

If you decide to move on, I hope that this new boyfriend will be good to you and that he is not fooling you because he wants to have sex with you.

I hope you are not "jumping out of the frying pan and into the fire".