Dear Pastor,

I have a problem and I want you to give me your fatherly advice. I am 20 years old and I am with a man who is 30. He is married and he lives in England with his wife. We are in love.

The reason for his marriage is business. We love each other and we have been together for two years and seven months. We are madly in love, but the problem is his wife. She is crazy. When he comes to Jamaica, he always carries her and I feel sad to see my man come to Jamaica and I can't see him. I tell him it is better for me when he is in England.

He calls me every day. Every fortnight my money is in the bank. He's coming back soon and we are planning to have a child. His wife cannot have children because she is sick. I love this guy very much. Out of my three boyfriends, I love him the most. Not for his money, but he is a caring and loving man. He makes me feel that I am appreciated. I don't want to lose him because if another girl gets him, she would have got a treasure.

Pray for me and this man, pastor. Thank you.

M.R., Kingston, Jamaica

Dear M.R.,

Why do you really believe that this man's marriage was business? Is it because he told you so? Why do you hate this man's wife? She was with the man before you got involved with him. My suggestion is that you leave this man alone.

Time will tell if indeed this is a business marriage and he will divorce his wife and marry you. I really can't sanction the relationship you are having with this man. You are too bold-faced.

Pastor