Dear Pastor,
I'm a regular reader of your column. In fact you are the reason I buy the STAR. I'm a 24-year-old woman with a problem that I hope you can help me with. I have been involved with a man for the past three years and we have a son together.
He told me that he loves me and that I'm the woman that he wants to spend the rest of his life with. He has never taken me to his home to meet his family and when we first started dating, he told me that he did not have any children and that what would really make him happy is to settle down with me and start a family and so I agreed.
I became pregnant and when I was three months pregnant, he wrote me a letter telling me that he has a daughter. Can you imagine my surprise? I was devastated because I felt that I was lied to and misled. However, I forgave him and I moved on with him because I really wanted a real family.
Never spent a day
Pastor, it has been three years and up until today he has never spent a full day at my house with me and the baby. He either comes late at night and leaves early or he comes early and spends a few hours. His story is that he is busy or he has to go home and make sure that his mom and sister are ok.
I'm talking about a 30-year-old independent man here. I know that something is not right, but I love him and I really want this relationship to work. I grew up with both parents and I would like the same for my son.
Pastor, I'm eagerly awaiting your advice because I'm at my wits' end.
K.S., St. Andrew, Jamaica
Dear K.S.,
This man has another family and you are the only one who can't see it. He doesn't stay long with you because he has to go home to his family. He is a liar. He can't take you home.
Pastor
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