Dear Pastor

I would like you to advise me on what to do with my boyfriend. He is 28 and I am 25-years-old. We have been dating for five years now and he wants us to have sex, but I think sex before marriage is morally wrong.

I told him that, but he is continuously asking me for sex. I love him a lot, but I am not ready for sex or its consequences.

Marriage pressure

My other problem is that my mother is pressuring me to get married and give her grandkids, but I am not emotionally ready for children. She wants me to marry him, but I am not ready. How can I let them know without hurting their feelings? I love them both a lot.

Please, tell me what to do to get through to my boyfriend and mother. Thanks in advance and keep up the good work.

S.E., St Andrew, Jamaica.

Dear S.E.,

No one should force you to have sex or to get married or to have children. I hope that by the time you are ready to get married this man will be around.

What I would suggest is that you give him an idea when you would be ready to get married. He is 28 years old and you are 25.

He has been asking you for sex and you have been telling him that you will not have sex with him until you are married.

So, work with him on a date for marriage. Would you be ready two years from now? Three years? Five years? Tell him. At least he will have something to look forward to.

Pastor