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Dear Pastor,

I always read your column. Keep doing the good job that you are doing. My problem is that my fiancé does not trust me and I don't know why.

He has this notion that no woman can be trusted. He tells me things like "yuh soon cheat, yuh just nuh ready yet" and I am getting tired of him.

I am tired of the false accusation and trying to prove myself to him that I can be trusted. We have been together for the last five years on and off. We have a child together. I don't go out unless it's both of us. He knows when I reach work and when I leave. He knows my every move. He has cheated on me more than two times which he has confessed to me.

Forgiveness

I have forgiven him over and over again. I have not cheated on him, but to tell the truth, I wonder why I am putting myself through this. I am not comfortable with him thinking of me that way.

Do you think it's because of the cheating he has done to cause him to think that I am doing the same? What else can I do to help him to have more confidence in my love for him and my faithfulness to him.

A.F., St Thomas, Jamaica

Dear A. F.,

You are not going to able to do anything to convince this man that you are being faithful to him. He believes that all women are cheaters.

Pastor

Some men feel that way and some women feel that all men are cheaters. So, don't worry yourself by the things he says. Pastor

Who knows? He may be accusing you of cheating to try to cover up his own conduct.

Pastor