Dear Pastor,

I am seeing a guy who is more than twice my age. He lives with his girlfriend of 10 years. He hardly ever calls or shows that he cares. When we have sex, I have an orgasm, but he hardly ever kisses me or engages in foreplay. The problem is I am afraid of leaving him because I have already slept with numerous men and I am afraid to move on. I really like him, but I am afraid to ask him where I stand.

Please help me Pastor.

D.B., Westmoreland, Jamaica

Dear D.B.,

I believe that you are on slippery ground. This man has been living with a woman for 10 years and you know about that relationship. You have chosen to sleep with him. But as far as he is concerned, it does not mean that spending time with you means that he has left the woman with whom he is living.

You are very naive. You should know that you are not special to this man. You hardly hear from him and he is not doing anything to make you feel that you are special. If he sees you and you are available to go to bed, he will do so, but that is where it stops.

You say that you have had numerous relationships, try and find a man who is not already taken. It may take a long time to find one, but try. This relationship is not going anywhere. Accept what has happened between this man and you as another mistake you have made.

Pastor