Dear Pastor,

I am a 35-year-old Jamaican woman living in New York for more than 20 years. I would like to tell you about a man I met about two years ago. We are planning to get married. I love him very much, and he loves me too. But, he has so many faults it's hard to place them all on paper.

First of all, he is terrible in bed. He makes no effort to please me in anyway. He is always complaining about being tired, and working so hard all day. I long for affection and love and that is something that he cannot give me. We have tried counselling, but that does not work. I want to be with him, but I think he should take more time, and make the sacrifice to make me happy.

What should I do, Pastor? I await your fatherly advice.

É., New York, USA

Dear É.,

How are you going to marry a man who has so many faults? He seems to be hopeless. Why can't you tell him what you need? Do you mean he is so ignorant that he cannot understand what you want him to do to make you happy and satisfied? Anyway, if you see that this man has not much use, you shouldn't marry him because such a marriage is likely to end in divorce.

Pastor