Dear Pastor,
I started talking to a boy a few months ago. He told me that he has a girlfriend, but she does not live in Jamaica so we can have something meaningful. He went away shortly after we met.
Now I have to be begging him to call me and he never has anything to give me. I am just wondering if I should move on because I am getting very confused and I just push everyone away. I don't want to be around anyone, especially men. I love him so much and even though he has someone I am just dreaming of being his wife and carrying his child.
I don't know the first step to take to get over him if this doesn't work out. I just have this strong feeling that he may not leave that girl and I am going to be left heartbroken for falling in love with a guy who already has a girl. I can assure you, Pastor, that he is the first guy who treated me as if he wanted more than sex, and I know that's the reason why I fell in love with him. I am worried that I might not find someone whom I love to treat me that way again.
Pastor, please, help me.
K.G., St Catherine, Jamaica
Dear K.G.,
You are going to get hurt. In fact, you are hurting already. This man had his girl before he met you and he had a fling with you, but he really doesn't care much about you. That is why he
doesn't feel obligated to you in any way. You would never get his money because he is not making any sacrifice for you. So, brace yourself. One of these days he will tell you verbally that the relationship cannot work. Right now he is telling you the same thing by his actions, but you are slow to learn.
Stop dreaming about becoming his wife and carrying his child. When you met him and he told you that he has his girlfriend, you should not have got involved with him. You are learning the hard way that not all men are willing to give women their money even though they have a fling with them.
Pastor
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