Dear Pastor,
I am a depressed 31-year-old woman who has been struggling to get pregnant for the last six years. I have been to a number of doctors. All of them said that there is nothing wrong with me and they don't know why I won't get pregnant. My boyfriend threatens to leave me if I don't go to an obeah woman and get a bath because maybe I am cursed. He doesn't have any children and his parents are nagging me for a grandchild.
I don't know what to do. I am so afraid that he will leave me. Should I go to the obeah woman?
S.B., St Elizabeth, Jamaica
Dear S.B.,
Why don't you tell this man who is pressuring you to have a child that if someone is cursed, it is him. If anybody needs the bath, let him go and get it. Don't you waste your time to go to any obeah woman. And tell him to tell his mother that you do not have the power to get yourself pregnant, and that good men don't consider that their women have to become pregnant to prove that they are women. He could be the problem. Perhaps he has low sperm count. Why doesn't he go to the doctor and check out himself?
It seems to me that you feel that you can't live without this man. It might be better for him not to be around than to nag you about something you cannot do for yourself. If he truly loves you, he would marry you and not try to pressure you to prove that you can become pregnant.
Pastor
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