Dear Pastor,

I urgently need your help. I am a female, 28, who has a five-year-old son. I have lived in Canada for the past 13 years and I love it very much. The reason for writing you this letter is that my baby father and I are having problems.

Number one is that he is living in Jamaica and I am living in Canada. I know that he is sleeping with a lot of girls and he wants me to accept it and not say anything about it. I went to Jamaica in 2005 and we had a big fight. The fight took place because he lies so much that I don't know when he is being honest at all. He told me that we have a son together and so I should know what I'm doing because I told him that it is over between us. He also told me there is no way in hell I am going to leave him.

Every time I tell him that it is over between us, something always brings us back together. I love him a lot, but I don't want to be with a man that tells a lot of lies just for the fun of it. I think that love is blind and I am blinded by it. All of my friends think that I have the perfect relationship with him but only God knows what takes place behind closed doors.

My second problem is I can't move on with my life with another man because I think they are all the same. They lie, cheat and are a no good set of human beings. I am seeing this other guy, who asked me to marry him but I haven't given him an answer as yet. It has been almost seven months since he asked me to marry him and I don't know what to say or do.

My sister and aunt want me to tell him yes because they think he is Mr. Perfect for me, but I don't think so. I think he is lying to me because sometimes when he calls me and I ask him where he is, he always tells me that he is somewhere that he is not. For example, he is always at his ex-girlfriend's home and tells me that he is with his friends, when he knows that I will find out that he is not with his friends. He told me that the reason why he doesn't tell me the truth is because it he tells me he is at his ex-girlfriend's home, I am going to think they are sleeping together, and I do think so.

I'm not true to him also because when I go to Jamaica he thinks that I don't have sex with my baby father, but I do have sex with him. However, the feelings that I have for my son's father are so strong that if he would commit, I would take him back in a 'heartbeat'. Maybe that is the reason why my boyfriend's question on marriage has not been answered. I am so afraid to say yes and I know within my heart that is not the right thing to do. His family and my family are in my business so much that I wish they would just mind their own business.

Doc, I don't know what is wrong with me. Please help and tell me what I should do about the two guys that I think I am in love with. Please help me.

T.P., Canada

Dear T.P.,

Your child's father lies and you lie too. 'Tit for tat, butter for fish'. You are not an angel neither is your child's father. Both of you are playing tricks on each other. Why complain? Think about it and make your own decision.

Pastor