Dear Pastor,

Good day to you. I have read most of your columns, but this is my first time writing. I am a 23-year-old lady who is going through a lot of stress and unnecessary problems that I think should not occur. I am involved with a 19-year-old man who I gave up everything for and now he treats me badly because of a schoolgirl and his friends.

When we first met, he told me a lot of stuff and said he would not treat me like my ex-boyfriends used to, but that is exactly what he is doing. Also he hits me whenever I talk about his schoolgirl and his friends. Then at nights he wants to sleep in my bed. Everytime he tells me that he is sorry and he would not do it again. I am tired and I am stressed over it. Everytime I try to leave him, he always stops me and tells me I don't love him. The truth is I do love him, but not to be treated badly and not to be loved anymore.

Pastor, please I am really, really asking you how to get over this man.

Lonely and Heartbroken, Hanover, Jamaica

Dear Lonely,

I thought you said you were 23 years old. You are behaving as an adolescent. Why would you allow a forced ripe young man to beat you? These young fellows get away with this type of nonsense because you young women allow them to feel that they have the right to beat women. You should run the 'bwoy' and if he threatens you, attempts to hit you or hits you, you should report him to the police immediately.

Pastor