Dear Pastor,

I want to congratulate you on your good work. I am a 23-year-old girl who has gone through a lot of things in life. I dropped out of school, but I am trying to go back to school this year. The problem now is that I live with my man and I love him, but I am in love with someone I used to talk to before. No matter how much I try to end this side relationship, I can't. Even when I don't talk to him for months, as soon as I see him, I want to be with him. He has other women, but he tells me that I am the one he wants. The real reason why we are not together is because I am with my present man. My present boyfriend has done a lot for me. He took me in when I was kicked out and he maintains all my bills because I now have my own house.

Pastor, please give me your fatherly advice.

T. S., New York, U.S.A.

Dear T. S.,

May I urge you to stick with the man you are living with at present. I repeat, stick with that man. Temptation can be very strong and what gets people into trouble is yielding to the temptation. The man with whom you are living is treating you well. I repeat, stick with him. The other guy has lots of women. Don't listen to his sweet talk. All he is interested in is getting under your skirt. He may promise you marriage, but that is just man talk. What he really wants is skin and lots of it.

Pastor