Dear Pastor,

I'm a 17-year-old Jamaican girl who lives in the United Kingdom. I am very much confused. The issue is I tend to find myself thinking about a so-called ex boyfriend's friend.

We weren't going out. It just seemed that way to people. The point is that I've developed feelings for his friend. I believe he feels the same which he has shown. We have been to the movies together and it was lovely. The most important thing is that he has respect for me as a person and we get along ever so well.

The trouble is he has recently got his first child, a baby girl. This was long before we became so close. The fact that we were friends before have brought us closer. I just can't really see a future for us at the moment. He asked if I would think about it which I'm still thinking about since January. I can't make up my mind, so I'm asking kindly for your wise advice. I'm not stupid. I have my head on my body. I'm in college and on the golden line of my aim for life.

Please give your advice. God bless you.

P. J., United Kingdom

Dear P. J.,

I would not encourage you to go on dates with the friend of your ex-boyfriend. You can do better than that. This guy is not even behaving responsibly. He has recently fathered a child. So he is a young father. And yet, he is seeking to be intimate with you. I repeat, don't go out on dates with him and don't encourage him to call you.

Pastor