Dear Pastor,

I am from Jamaica, but now I am living in London for the past six years. I am finding it hard to understand why these men from Jamaica come to England and change .

They come and take up this habit of wanting a woman to look after them and not wanting a Jamaican woman because they feel that the British women will give them car and money.

This is not good, because how can they come and abandon their own country women for another? I believe that when people say that we don't look after our own it is in fact true and this has got to stop. These men are making it hard for us to get good men as they think that Jamaican women are no good.

K., England

Dear K.,

Don't worry, not all Jamaican men think 'white'. Many who have abandoned their Jamaican women for others have had to return like puppies. So don't worry, my dear, don't worry. Keep your head high and don't lower your standard because you are eager for companionship.

Pastor