Dear Pastor,

I'm a 17-year-old girl who is seeing a 26-year-old guy. We are not dating; we are more like friends with benefits. But I'm getting feelings for him and everytime I tell him, he doesn't want to hear. But whenever it comes to sex, he's very interested.

What should I do, father?

T. B., St. Catherine, Jamaica

Dear T. B.,

Poor you, young and naive. And this man will not want any man to be seeing his daughter and having sex with her because they are "like friends with benefits". He knows that you are inexperienced, but that you really like him and you feel that you can't do without him, but all he wants to do with you is to have sex. No strings attached.

Young girl, this guy has another woman who is much older than you. He is only using you. Drop him, study hard in school. You are not going to get anywhere in this relationship with this man and if you are not careful, he will get you pregnant. If you don't listen to what I am saying to you and you continue with him, you are going to add sorrow to your life. Forget the sex with this man. That is all he wants. Remember, "what sweet nanny goat will run him belly".

Pastor