Dear Pastor,

I am 22 years old and I really need your help. I am engaged to a 25-year-old guy, but there is a big problem. Since we got engaged, he has been seeing another girl. For some reason he cannot stop seeing her. It does not matter how many times she runs him or embarrasses him, he can't seem to leave her. I live in Canada and she calls me to tell me about him. I think that she must have tied him and now she has had enough of him, but he won't go away. I asked him over and over again if he wants to be with me or the other girl and he told me that I am his life, but he also told her the same thing.

I don't know what to do. Should I give up even though I have spent so much money on this wedding or should I fight for him and help him? He asked me for my help, but I am not there so I cannot stop him from seeing her.

Please, I need your help. The wedding is soon. Keep in mind that I really love this guy and we have been talking since I was 13 years old.

C.M., Ontario, Canada

Dear C.M.,

Call off this wedding. Don't even think of it. Tell this man you will not marry him until he has come to his senses.

If he wants the other woman, let him have his way. No wedding, bank the rest of your money.

Pastor