Dear Pastor,

Greetings to you and your staff. I have a problem that I need a little help solving. I met a man recently. He was fun, charming and outgoing. Now all that has changed. At first he told me that he has a girlfriend, but she was abroad, and I also have my boyfriend here, but it was not a problem because we worked around it.

Now all that charm has vanished because he found someone who can give him material things which I can't give him and now I want to forget him but I can't. Each time I say I won't call, I always do. I am now working on my relationship to make things work with my boyfriend.

I need to know how I can forget about him.

R.B., St. Catherine, Jamaica

Dear R.B.,

You will not be able to forget about this relationship just like that, especially after you cleverly 'worked around' the relationship with your steady boyfriend to be with this man. May I urge you to try your best to forgive yourself for the mistakes you have made. Stick with 'old fire stick'.

Strengthen the relationship and always remember that you cannot believe everything a man says. And there are many men who don't look out for women but look out for themselves. Men are always saying that women come on to them to get help from them, but the truth is many men look to women for financial assistance and security. You will eventually get over this man and you will learn from the mistake you made.

Pastor