Dear Pastor,

I have a problem with my husband. He is wild. Last year he got a girl pregnant and I have to live with it knowing he is doing it all over again. I don't know what to do anymore, but it's driving me crazy.

I think this man wants to kill me. I am only 27-years-old and I am going though a lot with him and somehow I may do something that I don't want to do. I love him, but I can't take it anymore. It has been seven years of problems, lies and disrespect.

I went to the States to spend two months and when I came back the woman called me and told me she was in my house sleeping in my bed and was wearing my things. He also admitted to it.

I need your help, please.

T. D., St. Andrew, Jamaica

Dear T. D.,

This man is fortunate that you are still with him. He has allowed his woman to be disrespectful to you. Shame on this man and shame on his girlfriend too. She is behaving as a whore. But your husband is to be blamed. He is not treating you as his wife. He has no "brought-upsy".

IT IS TIME

It is time for you to put your foot down. You have to determine whether it makes sense to stay with this man or to move on. Is there a future in this relationship? What good reason do you have for staying with him?

How many more children is he going to have outside of the marriage? If this man wants his marriage, he has to learn to control himself. You cannot manage him alone. You need professional help.

Make an appointment to see a counsellor and insist that he goes with you.

If he wants to keep his marriage, he would not object going to see a family counsellor.

In the mean time, do not hold any argument with any one of his girlfriends. Don't bring yourself down to their level.

Pastor