Dear Counsellor:

My father is infected with AIDS and he is living at my house. I don't think I can care for him enough at home and it is not because I am scared but I want him to get the best care. Can you give me the address of somewhere I could take him? Shouldn't he be under hospital care?

Caring Daughter

Dear Caring Daughter:

One of the best places for people with AIDS, the disease that is caused by HIV, to be cared for is at home, surrounded by the people who love them. Many people living with AIDS can lead an active life for long periods of time. Most of the time, people with AIDS do not need to be in the hospital. Being at home is often cheaper, more comfortable, more familiar, and gives them more control of their life. In fact, people with AIDS-related illnesses often get better faster and with less discomfort at home with the help of their friends and loved ones.

How to keep safe

Dear Counsellor:

I'm a young woman (22 years old) and I have only had sex about once or twice. Recently my boyfriend and I decided that we wanted to start having sex. I have a problem with that because I am very afraid of getting a sexual disease. How can I be sure I don't get infected with a sexual disease?

Young and Worried

Dear Young and Worried:

Thanks for your letter. The only sure way for you not to get infected with sexually-transmitted infections, including HIV the virus that causes AIDS, is not to have sex at all. Other ways to protect yourself:

❒ Before you have sex, talk with your partner about sexually-transmitted infections including HIV, condom use and testing.

❒ Have sex with only one faithful partner who you know is not infected.

❒ If you are not sure about your partner the only way to be sure is not to have sex.

❒ Consider other ways of showing affection besides sex, such as hugging and massage.

❒ If you must have sexual intercourse be sure to use a condom, if used properly, condoms should prevent direct contact with infected body fluids such as blood, vaginal fluids and semen.

For more information on condom use, HIV/AIDS and other sexually-transmitted infections call the AIDS/STD Helpline at 967-3830, 967-3764 or toll free at 1888-991-4444 or write to AIDS Affair, c/o The STAR, 7 North Street Kingston.