Dear Pastor,

I'm a 23-year-old career woman who found out about a month ago that I'm pregnant. I met the father of my child about two years ago and we became intimate. He lied to me. Now I'm finding out that he is married. I love this man.

I want to confront his wife and tell her that I'm pregnant for him and explain to her that I did not know that he was married. He said he told his wife about me and he plans on getting a divorce, but I don't know what to do. I can't bear the fact knowing that I broke up a married couple. I need prayer and guidance, pastor.

Should I tell this man to leave me alone or should I welcome him with open arms?

C. B., Caymans Islands

Dear C. B.,

This man is a liar. Therefore, you cannot trust him. He did not tell you that he is married and you were under the impression for the past two years that he was single. Now that he has got you pregnant, he has told you that he has informed his wife about you. Why should you believe that he has told his wife? He could be lying. He is not trustworthy.

Therefore, I suggest that you call this woman and tell her the truth. Let her know that this man came into your life and gave you the impression that he was single and that you thought all along that you were his number one. Tell her that you are sorry for the pains you might have caused her, but it was never your intention to bring stress in her life or to have a child by a married man.

I have always insisted that outside women (commonly called 'sweethearts' in Jamaica) should not call the wives of the men with whom they are involved, but in your case, I make an exception. Have your baby and insist that he supports the child well, but don't go further in the relationship.

Pastor