Dear Pastor,

I'm in a dilemma. At the moment I have two boyfriends. One is in Florida who I'm spending some time with and he wants us to get married and live in Florida and the other is in Jamaica. My boyfriend in Jamaica lives with his baby-mother and he has decided that he's leaving her for me. He wants me to come back to Jamaica so we can get a place together and start our lives. As a result of this decision, I'm confused more than ever.

My boyfriend in Florida and I have been together for 3 years and his family adores me and I think I love him. With my boyfriend, I get everything that money can buy but very little attention. When he was in Jamaica, he cheated, and when I found out, he denied it and to make up, he bought me another car. With him money is not a problem. But the boyfriend in Jamaica can't afford all these things, but he gives me all the attention a woman needs. I'm not certain I want to give up my luxury to be with him and also my mother doesn't like him, so it is going to be hard for him to get accepted.

Pastor, please, help me with this serious decision.

K. M., Florida, U.S.A.

Dear K. M.,

You described your boyfriend in Florida as a cheater, but you are also a cheater. You are living with the man in Florida and the guy in Jamaica is living with his child's mother. You might not be having all the attention that you want from the guy in America, but that is something he can learn to do with some professional help. Why do you want to destroy the relationship that your boyfriend in Jamaica has with his child's mother? That is wrong.

On the other hand, the question is which of these men do you love more and why? As I see it, you are greedy. You love the luxury that you are enjoying from the man in America, but your heart is not necessarily with him. I suspect that you love one thing from the guy who is living in Jamaica and that particular thing is the only thing he can give to you. You know what it is. Nobody can live on that, so be wise. The decision is yours.

Pastor