Dear Pastor,

When I was 16 years old, I began talking to a young man. We knew each other a couple years before that. He wanted to get serious but I wasn't ready. Then I met another guy whom I liked and we went out for a time and I got pregnant at 17. When I got pregnant, the babyfather and I broke up. Due to complications, I lost my child. I told the guy whom I knew for a long time my problem, since he was the only one I could tell.

Ignores me

Since he has started college, he has stopped calling me. It wasn't a problem at first, because I knew he had to study, but he comes home frequently and never calls or visits me. I became worried and I told his father my situation. He still ignores my calls.

Is he mad that I went out with someone instead of him? Or is it because I got pregnant? I'm in my last year in high school and I'm working hard to prove that I will overcome all these obstacles. I have a 92 average and a job. I want to play the independent role for now. I'm not looking a relationship with him, but I do miss my friend.

What do I do?

N., New York, U.S.A.

Dear N.,

Don't press the issue. This guy has met many other girls in college and you are still in high school. He is associating with them and he is probably giving you time to finish high school. He may never be as close to you again. But that does not mean that he will totally forget you. You will always be his friend, but not necessarily the one he will marry.

Don't try to find him and stop complaining to his father. When he is at home from college, if he wants to talk to you he will contact you. If not, don't make it a bother. Put your mistakes behind you and move on with your life. Remember that everybody makes mistakes.

Pastor