Dear Pastor,

I'm in love with my ex-boyfriend. What makes it so hard is when he calls me for sex, I know there are no strings attached, it is just sex. It is hard to know that I used to live with him and all of a sudden we broke up. It has been nine months and I'm just not over him.

What can I do?

T.T., St. James, Jamaica

Dear T.T.,

Why do you have to have sex with this man? Why do you allow him to use you? He knows that you are easy to get. That is why he keeps calling you. You love him and you still believe that he will return to you permanently if you have sex with him. He is not going to come back to you permanently, but he is going to have sexual fun with you as long as you allow him. Learn to say no and mean what you say.

Pastor