Dear Pastor,

I am 22 years old and I have slept with over 200 men. I just want to know if I am a whore.

S., Kingston, Jamaica

Dear S.,

Some people would describe you as a whore. Some prostitutes have sex with five or ten men in one night when business is brisk. So, indeed, it is quite possible for you to have had over 200 men at your age.

I am sure that you have written because you are concerned about your lifestyle. Some girls sell their bodies because they are unable to get jobs. Some are uneducated, but refuse to do house work, etc.

They believe that it is easier to have many boyfriends and to rely on these men for money. Some men are not willing to give women money without getting back something from them.

I don't know why you have slept with so many men, but I would ask you not to condemn yourself. Try and get yourself a job. Do anything legal to survive. Go to evening school. Try to get some subjects and get some training. Empower yourself. No one will respect you if you are sleeping around. So, ask God to help you. Other girls have abandoned that lifestyle, you can too.

Pastor