Dear Pastor,

I have been living in the United States for about two years and I am steadfastly improving my status. I am a young male who is in the prime of my life and all I think about is whose skirt I can get into next. It's hard to control myself because girls get turned on by me easily.

Anyway, my dilemma is concerning my feelings for a girl back in Jamaica. I met her a few weeks before I flew out, but we connected in such a way that if she wasn't the one for me then no one else will be. We have been out of contact for a couple of months and it hurts my heart and melts my soul. I'm positive that I'm in love with her but I feel I'm chasing something which will always be a tease and never truly be mine.

So, tell me, pastor, do I break my own heart and give it up or try to make this happen?

O.M., Connecticut, USA

Dear O.M.,

I wish you would stay out of this young girl's life forever because you don't know what you want. You are interested in every girl and you think so highly of yourself. You don't want to take responsibility for your lifestyle. You believe that you get the girls because you are a charmer. You are a play- boy who's flirting here, there and everywhere. No intelligent girl would stay with you for long when she discovers that you are not serious about life.

So again, I say, don't try to bring stress on the poor girl you met in Jamaica. And I pray that one of these days you will come to realise that you can't finish women. They will still be around when you are walking with a stick and can hardly help yourself.

Pastor